Originally Posted by silentrun

I am a stepmom. I didn't directly discipline her but I would heavily influence my husband. He felt guilty he wasn't married to her mother and she had it pretty rough before she came to live with us. He swung way too permissive and allowed her to be put in dangerous situations. I didn't have any of that guilt blinding me so I saw the situation for what it was. A stepparent can be an asset. Just make sure it is united and it comes from you.