There definitely is an adjustment period in a marriage. You are not the person you were and never will be. Your husband knows how to live with a drunk not someone in recovery.
My wife is extremely supportive and attends ALANON but at almost 6 years doesn't have a clue as to how hard this is. One thing that has helped is discussing my AA meetings in general terms. Over the years she has come to know that sobriety is not a given.
Stay sober for you. The pieces will fall into place but it takes time