Hi Cambie,
Your emotions are going to be raw for a while. You were suppressing them with booze. They are now coming out with a vengeance. This will pass. They will stabilize.
Maybe you should avoid all the gettogethers for a while. Give yourself a chance to heal and relax? Avoid any temptation?
As for your OH, well sometimes non addict/alcoholic people don't understand what we are going through if they don't have a problem with booze, they don't always understand what is happening to us. Maybe sit him down when you have a quite time and explain to him where you're at, physically and emotionally?
Hang in there.
Cheers,
ZAB