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Old 04-28-2015, 03:26 PM
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SpiritOfDjinn
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Originally Posted by Pouncer View Post
Hi Marchers,

I am having a really rough time. My husband has repeatedly not sought out help for a serious porn addiction. He lies about it, is secretive (just like an alcoholic). We have gone through therapy, SA, the whole nine yards...I confronted him yet again last night - I couldn't take being silent anymore. He denied it for at least an hour - then said he was 'sober' for three weeks and that was the longest he has abstained for years.

So, in typical Pouncer fashion, I texted him a bunch of porn images and told him to never, ever touch me again. I do not blame him for my irresponsible addiction-I don't. It is so hard to say this, but his addiction was a massive trigger for me.

I know I acted immature today...this was the last time and I never, ever want to give him another chance again. I am so hurt.

He has really let himself go and honestly, I am not attracted to him anymore -- mostly because of his constant lying and deceptions. I don't believe in divorce and I don't want to do anything drastic during early recovery - I just do not want to be dealt another blow. I don't know what to do. I was furious about his deflection when I confronted him. This is all my fault, I am overreacting...

His last therapist actually made it worse. I am sick right now. I am stalwart in my sobriety and I am on the lookout for the AV.
Man... This ^^^ sounds terrible, but I admire your commitment to your marriage. Not many people can make it through things like this. I hope that eventually you can get through to him. We are always here for you to lean on.
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