to SR. You will find a lot of support both here (newcomer forum) and also on the Friends and Family of alcoholics forum
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Like Teebee, what concerns me is the name calling and manipulation. Verbal abuse is not OK I really hope that you do not crack and propose to her until she starts working on herself and learn to treat you with respect.