Great job and thanks for sharing your experience!!
Two things I really agree with and that resonate for me;
Relapse not being the end.... Keep at it!
And not identifying as an alcoholic. While I do say it at AA when I go, and will use the term here and with others in recovery - I find 'non-drinker' much more empowering and appropriate in general.
You've described some very significant changes in describing what worked for you. I bet that your journey - including AA, therapy, relapse.... All of it is what ultimately has worked. We all follow our own unique path to and I'm sobriety.
I'm happy for you. Thanks!