Originally Posted by
Jeni26 
I love him so much, why can't he see what's happening? My words are empty, he can't hear them. It's got a hold of him again and I feel so guilty.
Jeni chances are your husband does know what's happening but the voice of addiction is all he's hearing at the moment. Unfortunately we can't love or talk people out of addictions even when we have been there ourselves.
I can understand that smell of alcohol in your bedroom getting you down -- it's one of the things that haunts me from my drinking days. Could you keep your daughter's bed made up and quietly retire to that when the odour bothers you? Sure your husband will ask questions so say what you said here -- maybe it will give him pause.
Keep actively living your sober life -- as in taking your daughter back to uni, that's god for all of you. Have you told him your feelings? Your own I mean, not your feelings about his behaviour.
Thinking about you Jeni.