I, too, am chiming in here late, but wanted to send my support and thoughts.
D's comment about putting your own oxygen mask on first seems crucial. Not doing so has been my Achilles' heel, both in life and in sobriety. It is so easy to work ourselves to the bone, exhausted and drained, and then succumb to the siren sound of alcohol (mixing my classical metaphors here, I suppose). Anyway, as a few folks on here reminded me awhile back, it is okay to put yourself first.
Take care, and big hugs to you and your loved ones.