One of the things that happens in sobriety is that we do different things and we do old things differently. At first this change is uncomfortable, change is unsettling for most people and, in recovery, we have to get past that discomfort and stay with it until the changed thing becomes part of our new normal.
New activities, new interests, new routines are part of our sober lives. If we don't change from what we did in the past it is hard for sobriety to stick. Often there are threads on SR where people post wondering how to live their new sober lives.
Your wife seems to be a great support in your life. I understand from what you have said that she is in recovery herself, is finishing study and is being a help to you as she learns to live her own new life.
You said ....
Originally Posted by
Thatdeliveryguy 
Wife wants me to dance with her, a ballroom sort of thing! Really, no TDG ( Jeremy) says no..... We don't dance.
Why not do this? Your wife has been wonderful to you, she has asked for an activity that you would both participate in and it would be a new interest for you. Think about it Jeremy.