Hi Shelkat, welcome to the forum. All of the things you listed doing with your husband, you can do without drinking. It just takes time to rewire your brain to accept that. Maybe start small and work your way up to bigger things. I wouldn't go listen to music in bars. Or host a dancing party right away. But like Scott said, I associated drinking with everything and I've found that I can uncouple that association. I used to drink wine while reading. I can read again without alcohol. Gardening, ditto.
It does take time. I think it's great that you are thinking to support your husband. He's going to need your help. The biggest would be to not have any alcohol around the house.
See you around.