Originally Posted by
redatlanta 
For me I found that at the core of my resentments and anger was more more resentment and anger at myself for allowing, rationalizing, and accepting the poor behavior and bullsh!t from someone else.
In each situation (previous to about 2 years ago) I could have and should have put a stop to it looooooog before I did.
I know this is very true for me as well!
I've been struggling with resentment a lot, especially in the last couple of months.
I keep waiting for some validation from AH for all of my anger, and a really great heart felt apology, and I feel like
then I can get over it. But I know that's not going to happen, and I've known that for a while.
I've been wondering if I will ever be able to get over the resentments and the anger if I do not leave the relationship. Will I be able to truly move forward in my recovery if I stay with him and he is not working on recovery? Sure hasn't been the case so far... I am making some progress, but definitely not as quickly as I would like.
I've wondered if what Thumper said below, would be true for me as well....
"Once I was free from the relationship - the anger and resentment lifted."
I don't know...
Thanks for this thread Liz