Originally Posted by
redatlanta 
For me I found that at the core of my resentments and anger was more more resentment and anger at myself for allowing, rationalizing, and accepting the poor behavior and bullsh!t from someone else.
In each situation (previous to about 2 years ago) I could have and should have put a stop to it looooooog before I did.
Yeah, this is totally me. I didn't realize that my other emotions such as sadness, guilt, self condemnation, etc were actually anger being masked. And, when I realized I was actually angry at myself, I had to figure out why. That was where the answers were: looking at myself, exploring what boundaries are and why mine were drawn in sand and not concrete, etc. Huge part of my recovery was accepting myself from the past and working today to not be so flexible with those boundaries in the future!