You're both right. Don't bite the hand that feeds. If this weren't an alcohol deal it would be normal parental smothering which can be alleviated by..well...leaving for awhile. Problematic for us newly-sober as alcohol has been involved in many of my life "break-away" moments--almost a rite of passage to drink away parental authority. So go to the store. Better yet, go to a meeting or the gym or anything synonymous with recovery. Enough "say-no" moments will present themselves w/out forcing them in the coming days.