Originally Posted by
FreeOwl 
I'm not sure it's quite as black and white as that.
For many years I gave myself effective examples of 'ability to moderate'.
The belief that 'ability to moderate' meant I didn't 'have a problem' enabled me to throw away many years of my life.... Until it became bad enough that I could no longer delude myself with alleged 'moderation'.
I think for me it really is as black and white as that.
Out of thousands of times I drank, maybe 2 dozen times I approximated the behaviour of a normal drinker.
I know I argued for years I could moderate because of those times I did not drink to oblivion...
but there really wasn't much control on my part...'twas mostly luck.
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