I have not moved from the animosity I have towards my wife. Sometimes I feel my marriage was nothing more than a lie and I was sucked in, I was even not sure about the drug use but had thoughts before we were married. However, I thought I was just imagining things. Thanks to the board I have learned to appreciate the three "C's" but I still harbor resentment and ill will to an extent.
To my own benefit I have moved into an acceptance stage and now focusing on protecting myself and learning to be happy again. To be very honest codependency was my down fall and now that I am focusing on my own happiness I am starting to feel I as though a weight has been lifted. I almost forgot what it was like to be happy and not dealing with the drama of a functioning addict.