If you're committed to recovery, you are not DOOMED to fail because AA isn't a good fit.
Meditation and Buddhism have helped me in my recovery immensely. Refuge Recovery and Shambhala Heart of Recovery are non-12-step programs who welcome anyone struggling with any addiction. The Women for Sobriety program is amazing too. They're all about empowerment, working from the inside out and finding compassion and beauty in yourself and others.