Oh my goodness are you kidding me?! I have thanked the responses I got earlier and have been out since. Of COURSE I am massively grateful to those who have responded, (erm, hello, I said thank you to Jane who recommended a book for example). This is exactly what I'm annoyed about....I've helped 16 people in recovery by way of counselling, babysitting, hospital visits, St Christopher's Hospice visits...and you are giving ME grief?!