MDK, we have a Friends and Family forum here, too. You might consider posting there, too, since they know what it is like to live with an alcoholic and they give some really good advice most times.
What are you doing for you? And your kids? I suggest finding other ways to build your self-esteem (and wallowing in your wife's problem does not do it). I'd say, make efforts to detach from her and focus on what's important for you and the kids in order to have as healthy a life as possible. In your case, it might take some time, but you will come to find a solution that works, I believe.
Just my 2 cents. Take care.
Edit: Move forward. Do not dwell in the past.
Last edited by Boylan; 04-15-2015 at 06:27 PM.
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