Regarding Lacy...the counsellors at rehab when my AH was inhouse said the same thing about our son. He was strong, determined and showed very little signs of the alcoholism in our home.
He's now 25 and Friday celebrated his 5th month of sobriety. They didn't feel he needed counselling. They were wrong. It didn't show at the time and didn't really manifest itself until he got to college and then all hell broke loose.
She sounds strong and determined. That's grand, but the effects are still there. We're all damaged by the disease. Please, get her to alateen. There's so many deeply rooted problems buried inside her head that have yet to show itself. And don't forget to get yourself to alanon.
Take what you want and leave the rest.
Blessings