Hi Abitconfused,
I completely understand how upset you must be after all the things he put you through both before he went to jail and again after you got married, but I think the key thing there is "...all the things he put you through".
In my opinion he has (inadvertently) done you the biggest favour because it means that you will be free of him and you deserve that because you are so much better than him.
Maybe you would have come to that conclusion yourself eventually but who knows how long it would have taken for you to get to the point where you said "no more"
That said I realise that you must be really hurting so hugs to you .
PS I havn't been there myself but there is a family/friends of alcoholics section on SR. There might be something helpful there, at least people in similar situation