you did the right thing.
you need to focus on YOUR sobriety. I'm sorry you find yourself in this situation, it must be heart-wrenching.
but you know from your own experience that nobody can get anyone else sober.
as hard as it will be; right now the very best thing you can do is get well yourself. It will no doubt be a daily struggle of emotional challenge given your circumstances.
Take care of yourself... get yourself all the support you can... let your wife know you love her and hope that you will one day find yourselves together in sober, joyful happiness - but for now you must tend to yourself.
that may feel selfish - but it is actually the most selfless act you can imagine. In time you and others will see that.
