Recovery and you significant other?
My wife's brother is an alcoholic, my brother was an alcoholic (RIP), I'm a recovering alcoholic.
Wife and I are in marital counseling (been married for five years) and our counselor was married to an alcoholic and had a alcoholic mother.
So... I presumed we were all experienced in recovery.
In counseling last night my wife asks me "do you talk in the meetings?" and further... do you say "my name is Scott and I'm an alcoholic."
I was somewhat surprised... I purposely chose closed/participation meetings so I would talk in the meetings.
Long story short we have some trust issues in our marriage because like an idiot early on I was still running around getting drunk.
Now, not surprisingly she checks up on me... I know this is childish for a middle age man but to be honest I can't help but feeling some resentment that she is "looking over my shoulder."
So question for the experienced married (or long term relationship) folks out there... how do you get support and/or deal with accountability with you sig. other?
TIA