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Old 04-11-2015, 07:57 AM
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Originally Posted by FeelingGreat View Post
I know this is an emotional time for the family, but please resist running around after them when they could just as easily catch a cab, grab some lunch, work out how to book online etc.
Yes-I agree-it's very difficult to differentiate being a caring, loving person and being a co-dependent martyr...especially during a crisis. I'm keeping the focus on my MIL. Ever since her stroke her brain is just not able to process some things and I felt I was in a position to provide some comfort to her. But I need to be very cognizant of the line between helping her and enabling him.

By the way-my first thought was a cab too...not because I'm heartless and didn't want to do the favor but i was worried about the impact on my son. I wasn't sure I wanted to wake him up from a sound sleep to pick up his drunk father and grieving grandmother to drive the 3 miles to the hospital. But I knew the state XAH was in and if I had suggested the cab he'd have just driven them himself.
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