Concentrate on lifestyle or sobriety?
I've been thinking lately, am I going about this sobriety thing the wrong way? I've been doing decently, or at least I'm happy with myself. In the past 84 hours I've had four drinks, all of which were last night. Don't plan on drinking today or tomorrow at all. To some it might seem I failed, but I'm definitely not going to beat myself up over it. That's a lot better than the 3.5L of whiskey I would have normally put down in the same time period.
What (I think) I'm realizing for myself is concentrating on being sober is almost self-defeating. It's as if I'm punishing myself for drinking, which will only help make me miserable. Instead I should be concentrating on improving my lifestyle, making myself happier, and with that, alcohol with naturally get cut out.
For example, say tomorrow morning I have plans to go golfing with some buddies, then later on I need to do some shopping, then volunteer somewhere, then go for a dinner date. Assuming those people aren't alcoholics themselves, it will do both, make myself happier and more fulfilled, plus cut out alcohol from my life, because alcohol won't really fit into my life any more.
Am I thinking right, or what am I not seeing here?