Originally Posted by
Florence 
IME, don't engage with STBXAH, engage with your son. IF you decide to engage with your STBXAH about this, do it by email so your argument is documented. Write it with the judge in mind. If it continues, I'd strongly reconsider why you're committed to a visitation plan at all. I always said if DS15's dad stopped coming around, I wouldn't chase him.
Life for my boys became less wrought with stress and disappointment when I followed Florence's advice. It sucks that they do not have the relationship I want, and it sucks not having a coparent and it sucks for my kids but it is a hundred times easier to deal with than when I was trying to make things happen.