pigeonhead

That's not harsh at all, it's a good question. I almost wish that he were more solid about his own commitment because that would put the pressure on me to follow. He was upset and disappointed with me a couple of weeks ago when I allowed myself a couple of beers when a friend was in town, and I was motivated to abstain for the next week. During that week, he allowed himself a couple of small bottles of whiskey (the kind they have on airplanes) to "treat" a panic attack, for which he already has prescription medication. He declared us "even." Even writing this, I can see how messed up it is! Perhaps I'm answering my own question. We're living together temporarily.

I suppose the simple answer is for me to set the example. Perhaps make it a real challenge..."Who's committed now?" sort of stuff.

Yeah, the brother's whiskey thing is problematic.