Four days is a very good start
You would not be the first member here who became sober while in an abusive relationship or living with an active alcoholic or both.
Some had to move out in order to work on their sobriety and others (like me with my XABF) had to find other ways to cope. Al Anon was a God send for me. Drinking is not a good way to cope. It is only adding more abusing onto yourself as if it was not bad enough that your partner abuses you, you have to hurt yourself too.
I would recommend that you call the national DV hotline
The National Domestic Violence Hotline | 24/7 Confidential Support
1-800-799-7233
Dealing with abuse it is especially important that you remain sober so you can have your wits about you and also so you can get outside support.
Unfortunately, if you are drinking, your partner can make up any story and he will be the one who is believed. It goes for the police but also with friends, families and in some cases the medical establishment.
Call that number and see what your options are and right now, don't pick up the first drink no matter what.
