me and the kids are safe. the heavy drinking is after they go to bed, so they dont see the worst of it. i do have a bag packed in case we need to ever flee. i do not know where the line is to decide im done. there are step kids involved who we would not be able to see except via him. Their mom is a hostile improperly medicated alcoholic bipolar. giving up on him also means losing the skids. so i hold on a bit longer. i dont know where the exact line is. i do know im getting horribly close to it though.