Hiya Nowsthetime
I can feel your anger & frustration in your words. The time for you guys to talk is when he is not drinking and you are in a calm state.
Otherwise it will all turn to ****.
Your no# 1 priority here is you and only you .
Your health and sobriety comes first and foremost.
For without those 2 nothing in your life will work.
Kudos to you for sticking to your guns & not giving in.
The worst thing you can do is give in and have a drink. It's a lose , lose situation.
You are partners so you must love each other. Approach the matter so as he feels his input is important , maybe .....I really love you , you know that & I need your help here ......
If he is still belligerent , then he just doesn't get it. But YOU do , you're a smart cookie
Good luck xxxxx