Stratman, have you tried doing a 12-Step programme?
I'm doing it through AA and think it's helping me deal with childhood and adolescence demons more effectively that 1:1 counselling did, and I've recently noticed online that 12-step programs are also being adapted and used specifically with people who have survived abusive and disfunctional childhoods apart from alcohol.
Sorry if you've already said if you do / don't / have / haven't tried it. My memory's not great.
Hope today's better.