Originally Posted by
biminiblue 
Well, without your glass of numbing liquid, now you have to face this stuff.
You know there's nothing you can do about his drinking.
You can set boundaries for what you will do in reaction to his behavior. Such as, "I will leave the room/not engage with you when you are drinking." Right up to, "I can't live with an active drinker." There are, of course, a thousand shades of grey in this and only you can decide what you can live with.
Fortunately, he doesn't really drink, although he can do to a container of ice cream what I used to do with a bottle of wine.
I think that there are opportunities here. He often will say, "I'm tired," or, "My clothes aren't fitting." Might be the moment to encourage. Fortunately, I'm a good and healthy cook, but of course I can't follow him around all day (egads, wouldn't the be awful if I could)?
I suppose part of it is that I see how much better I feel now that I'm taking better care of myself and want to see him do the same.