I don't think you are being out of line at all. I find it easier to get my husband to do specific things like he will take vitamins if I put them in his face or he will eat better if I cook the food for him. He has cancer in his family and I practically had to threaten to divorce him to get a colonoscopy. They found a polyp. Who knows what that could have turned into if I hadn't been on his ass about it.