Old 03-26-2015, 05:36 PM
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matilda123
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Advice about minding my side of the fence

Hi, all:

Been thinking about this all day and wanted to get your advice.

Mentioned this morning that my partner and I got into a tiff. I know a lot of it is that he is so grumpy right now, in part, I believe because he runs himself ragged and doesn't take good care of himself. This last year and a half I have felt especially frustrated by how poorly my partner takes care of himself: works too much (I think), stresses, poor sleep and doesn't make the best food choices. I love him and I worry so. I am also sensitive to the fact that my nagging him won't work (I've watched my mom do it to my dad for years; it isn't pretty). I also know that if anyone had nagged me about my drinking (and a few folks did) that didn't work either.

Where is the line there? Why is it especially now, in my sobriety, that I feel hyper aware of these issues and genuinely sad about them? Is there some misplaced kind of co-dependency thing happening here? Is it me not wanting to focus on my own business? Should I remain silent (which I pretty much have)?

Any advice or shared experience would be appreciated.
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