My husband supposedly had had almost 2 years of being clean when we met, and yet there was always something shady going on under the surface. Money has always just...disappeared & been used for "gifts" or other things that never reappear. He's always SEEMED to be doing great, but then I catch him lying about something else behind my back. I feel I've tried everything, including supporting him through all the lies & inconsistencies to see if he can turn himself around.
I no longer believe that he can. And I'm starting to question whether there's ever been a time that he was 100% clean. Ever.
I second everyone else. Trust your gut & don't take anything on face value. And..figure out where the line is between what you'll help him work through & what you jsut won't put up with anymore. It's hard especially when that line is crossed, but, it's necessary.