You might want to read "Getting them Sober." My husband did not share with me he was an addict as a teen and we had a terrific marriage for 8 years -- then one night he came home drunk 23 years ago -- I was pregnant with twins. I buried him last year -- he died from his drinking and drugs. Pay attention to his actions NOT his words. My AH lied to me all of the time and blamed me for his disease. I am still trying to figure out what happened all of these years later. My children and I were thrown under a bus we did not see coming. Please take care of yourself and your children.