New here and unsure of what to do
n: Delray Beach, Florida
Posts: 2
New here and unsure of what to do
I am a mother of 3 boys. I married my husband 10 years ago. He was clean for 10 years when I met him. He told me 4 days ago that he started using after 20 years of sobriety. I've never known him not to be sober. I never knew him during his dark times. I started noticing he was making excuses to leave the house. He was nodding out at the dinner table. He would spend a lot of time in the bathroom. He was acting very mellow and always tired. I confronted him a few times and he said he was taking an extra klonipin every night to deal with the stress of work and to try and sleep. I bought his lie. He came to me one night saying he was going through withdraws from the extra klonipin. He said he needed to see a specialist that will help him detox from the klonipin. I asked him if there was something else going on. That's when he told me he'd been using heroin. I asked him how long and he said a few weeks. After asking many more questions I found out he spent about 2,000 on heroin plus another 300. From my wallet. Looking back everything makes sense. I'm so hurt by the lies he told. I recently suffered a second trimester miscarriage and am heart broken we lost our baby girl. He actually made up a lie about having a gift made in honor of the baby. He used our baby as an excuse to go out and get high. I asked him where the gift was and he said there was never a gift. He lied to go buy more drugs. I'm heart broken, angry, confused. I told him he has to start going to meetings. Says he is going tomorrow. I also told him he needs to tell his best friend of his relapse. He said he told him tonight. He has always been very ashamed of being an addict. He doesn't tell anyone he is an addict because he is embarrassed. What can I expect from here? What can I do now?*
He was driving our young children while he was using. I can't overcome the anger I feel.
Now says he is going to a suboxene doctor to help with withdrawal. What should I be doing?
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