Pookielou:
When ever my AH sees that I am gaining some self respect he will through a comment in about my housekeeping skills. His mom had a housekeeper and their home was immaculate. Of course, nobody in the house could ever sit on their bed, eat other than meal times.....
I keep a clean house, he just knows it hurts and causes me distress if something negative is said about my house. Sigh, I think he is just trying to bring you down. He sees your gaining strength.