Originally Posted by
SobRecNYC 
Thank you, Firefall. Yes, this is what I am doing -- expending my energy "policing" my partner. It's exhausting and leaves little time and energy for self-care. I went to my first Al-Anon meeting yesterday and between that, my personal therapy and the kind support and warmth I'm finding on this forum, I feel more hope than I've felt in a long while.
Yes it works if you keep coming back. I don't understand how or why, just that it does.
You are doing some good things that will help. We are all here for each other, that includes you.
Huggs