Many of us on this list come from deeply troubled childhoods.
My mother was also an alcoholic and very verbally abusive
and out of control in many ways while drunk.
She had sole custody of me and my brother, so I grew up with that as a role model.
I'm sorry for the pain that an alcoholic parent's abuse has given you--it also makes having
"normal" relationships very difficult.
In the end, however, my continued choice to drink was my own until I decided to stop.
It sounds like you have very good incentive to quit yourself here, but
unless you are doing it for you, to finally deal with the issues underlying the
alcohol abuse (or whatever you want to call it) and not for instrumental purposes
only like getting your kids and inherited house back, you chances of success are
quite frankly not as good.
You can absolutely do this and change your life for the better,
and that of your kids as well by having a sober mother, but the
question is are your ready to quit for yourself or just for your court date?
It is good you are posting and I wish you every success