One other thing, my AH needs very specific details about what to do, like I need to tell him what constitutes picking up after himself, putting dirty dishes in the dishwasher, putting dirty clothes in the hamper. If I just ask him to pick up after himself, he still doesn't "see" what needs doing. But if I give him specifics, then when he takes off his socks, something in his brain clicks "oh, socks, they have to go int he hamper". It's just how his mind works -- he doesn't "see" details the way that I do. HTH