terpgal.... Except to suggest that you all do without something else--to pay for the household help....I don't really have any more that I can add for this particular problem....except to say that it is up to each one of us to decide what we are willing to live with....
dandylion
***if this is l iterally what is driving you "crazy"....there is SOMETHING that you can do without in order to save your sanity.