Originally Posted by Thumper

I think feeling confused and lost is expected.

Doesn't he have a sponsor type person (even if it isn't AA) or a counselor that he can call with that kind of thing? It is one thing to share in broad terms about the struggle to stay on a recovery path, or I'm having a stressful week etc - and another to say he wanted to drink. I'd be triggered like mad. I don't care how strong a person's recovery work is - that is a triggery thing to hear at this stage of the game. There is more than one person in this partnership and your recovery and well being counts for something too. ((hug))

ETA: I'm willing to hear I'm wrong for that matter. Maybe that conversation is perfectly fine and desired.