Part of my co-dependency was that I felt if I could just find the right words, right time, say it in the right way, be more clear, speak more candidly, then it would work. He'd 'get' it and of course once he got it, he would change. The ball would be in his court.
Consider that you have already said all there is to say and he's heard you. He's not taking any action because he does not want to - not because he does not know how you feel. The ball is definitely in your court.
What you see is what you get. He is who he is. When he manipulates you like that it is to keep the status quo. You talk. He manipulates. That is the roller coaster and you get to decide if you want to keep buying tickets.