Hello and welcome. Sorry you had to find us but I think you'll be glad you did because there is so much support here. I'm so glad to hear you are going to start with Al-Anon.
I'd also like to recommend the stickies at the top of this forum. There are so many great threads up there. I also read a book called "Co-Dependent No More" and it helped so much. It really resonated with me and I think it might for you too.
His questions are his to answer. Your questions are yours to answer so if you focus on yourself - you'll be moving in the right direction.