Originally Posted by
hopeful4 
Liz, every time my X has done this, I call him and address it. I do it nicely, just saying something along the lines of hey, can you communicate this with me instead of the kids just to make sure we are all on the same page?
He was receptive b/c I made sure to feel like I was not "blaming" him. Even though I do. I have just learned that there is a certain way to communicate with him if I want things done effectively. Sad, but true.
I had to do that last night when I asked him if he wanted to see our son next weekend (yeah, I know...he was going to be out of town). He said, "Oh sorry, I figured that G would have told you I was going to MD for 5 days to finish up some family business."
I asked him to communicate directly with me, even if it's just a short text because teenagers don't know if they are supposed to tell stuff or not in these situations and sometimes they forget. I even wished him safe travels and was trying very hard to be nice.