liz....you all are separated and headed for divorce, now. Time to stop the bickering...and detangle yourselves from each other's lives...(except where ABSOLUTELY necessary).
Move his hoola hoop far away from your hoola hoop.
Ask yourself "how important is it"? If life and limb are not in jeapordy, I suggest that it is not that important.
LOL...it may take some time to get used to NOT being irritated at him all the time.
dandylion