I second NWGRITS. Therapy! I am involved with an absolutely wonderful man who knows my story. I don't share every anxious moment with him though. In fact, when I get upset at something he might do or say I find it very helpful to not talk about it immediately. I think about it, put it in context, put my feeling in his context. He was a bachelor for a long time and sometimes just doesn't think about what he's doing but I know him and trust him more than I trust myself so I know he doesn't mean to hurt me. Then, when I am feeling less upset, I can tell him why I was upset (he knows because i become very quiet but I have told him that when that happens just wait, and I'll talk later LOL). When that happens we can have a real conversation and work through it to make the next time better. But the therapy has allowed me to be able to examine my feelings and analyze why I am feeling that way, it's usually because I'm just expecting to be lied to, or let down - which he has never done.