I too have filed, not yet divorced, but it should be over soon.. Regardless, the relationship was over emotionally long ago. Being in a healthy relationship with an addict /alcoholic was impossible for me and am so glad that I have stepped off that train going nowhere.... Take good care of yourself and tell yourself you did what was best for you and that is wonderful.... It does get easier. I never wanted to be divorced or a single mother, but I am doing just fine....