Are you seeing a therapist? That's the single best thing you can do for yourself, especially seeing as you are still in full-fledged codie mode. This isn't healthy if you're having this kind of reaction, and if he really is healthy and wonderful, he'll run for the hills once he starts getting smothered or the insecurity becomes the third person in your relationship. That's my best advice - find a therapist. I've been where you are and nothing changes if nothing changes.