I think rereading the book is a good plan, I can't wait to get my copy and quieten my AV with my learning how to control the beast. As far as I can tell this 'jealousy' is pure AV, which I know, for me, allowed my beastly activities to continue, unchecked until long after my hubby quit drinking. I made my Big Plan with regard to alcohol and no longer "feel jealous" of anyone I encounter that drinks (dependently, moderately or 'alcoholically'), I know that's just my AV now. In early sobriety I think I would've forced my hubby & his wine OUT of the house or tried to get him onboard to how he might be helpful towards me by not drinking my DOC so early in my journey, I wasn't comfortable in other people drinking in my home until I settled into my new way of living! Persons,ly I wouldn't like it.